The disease to please :
Braiker, Harriet B., 1948-
The disease to please : curing the people-pleasing syndrome / Harriet Braiker - N. Y. : McGraw-Hill, c2001 - xvi, 284 p. ; 24 cm.
Preface. - Acknowledgments. - Introduction : A user's guide to getting the most benefit from this book. - Ch. 1 : The disease to please triangle : the price of nice. - Pt. One : People-pleasing mindsets. Ch. 2 : Toxic thoughts. Ch. 3 : It's okay not to be nice. Ch. 4 : Putting others first. Ch. 5 : There's more to you than how much you do. Ch. 6 : Nice people can say "No". - Pt. Two : People-pleasing habits. Ch. 7 : Learning to please : approval addiction. Ch. 8 : Why can't you get your parent's approval? Ch. 9 : Love at all costs. Ch. 10 : Romantic addiction. - Pt. Three : People-pleasing feelings. Ch. 11 : Once more, without feelings. Ch. 12 : The fear of anger. Ch. 13 : Words can really hurt you. Ch. 14 : How far would you go to avoid a confrontation? Ch. 15 : Small steps, big changes. - The 21-day action plan for curing the disease to please. A user's guide to the 21-day action plan. Day 1 : Don't say "Yes" when you want to say "No". Day 2 : The broken record technique. Day 3 : The counteroffer. Day 4 : What to say if you want to say "No" : the sandwich technique. Day 5 : The reverse sandwich technique. Day 6 : Rewriting ten commandments of people-pleasing. Day 7 : Rewriting the seven deadly shoulds. Day 8 : Taking care of you. Day 9 : Talking yourself out of approval addiction. Day 10 : To do or not to do, that is the question. Day 11 : Tag, you're it. Day 12 : It's okay not to be nice. Day 13 : The anger scale. Day 14 : The relaxation breath. Day 15 : Anger-up. Day 16 : Anger-down. Day 17 : TIME OUT. Day 18 : Stress inoculation. Day 19 : Solve a problem with a friend, not for a friend. Day 20 : Correcting faulty assumptions. Day 21 : Celebrate your cure. - Epilogue : Some final thoughts. - Endnotes.
0071385649 (pbk.)
Assertiveness (Psychology)
Interpersonal communication.
158.2 / BRA
The disease to please : curing the people-pleasing syndrome / Harriet Braiker - N. Y. : McGraw-Hill, c2001 - xvi, 284 p. ; 24 cm.
Preface. - Acknowledgments. - Introduction : A user's guide to getting the most benefit from this book. - Ch. 1 : The disease to please triangle : the price of nice. - Pt. One : People-pleasing mindsets. Ch. 2 : Toxic thoughts. Ch. 3 : It's okay not to be nice. Ch. 4 : Putting others first. Ch. 5 : There's more to you than how much you do. Ch. 6 : Nice people can say "No". - Pt. Two : People-pleasing habits. Ch. 7 : Learning to please : approval addiction. Ch. 8 : Why can't you get your parent's approval? Ch. 9 : Love at all costs. Ch. 10 : Romantic addiction. - Pt. Three : People-pleasing feelings. Ch. 11 : Once more, without feelings. Ch. 12 : The fear of anger. Ch. 13 : Words can really hurt you. Ch. 14 : How far would you go to avoid a confrontation? Ch. 15 : Small steps, big changes. - The 21-day action plan for curing the disease to please. A user's guide to the 21-day action plan. Day 1 : Don't say "Yes" when you want to say "No". Day 2 : The broken record technique. Day 3 : The counteroffer. Day 4 : What to say if you want to say "No" : the sandwich technique. Day 5 : The reverse sandwich technique. Day 6 : Rewriting ten commandments of people-pleasing. Day 7 : Rewriting the seven deadly shoulds. Day 8 : Taking care of you. Day 9 : Talking yourself out of approval addiction. Day 10 : To do or not to do, that is the question. Day 11 : Tag, you're it. Day 12 : It's okay not to be nice. Day 13 : The anger scale. Day 14 : The relaxation breath. Day 15 : Anger-up. Day 16 : Anger-down. Day 17 : TIME OUT. Day 18 : Stress inoculation. Day 19 : Solve a problem with a friend, not for a friend. Day 20 : Correcting faulty assumptions. Day 21 : Celebrate your cure. - Epilogue : Some final thoughts. - Endnotes.
0071385649 (pbk.)
Assertiveness (Psychology)
Interpersonal communication.
158.2 / BRA